Small Girl, Big Vision: How to Break Free and Live your Dreams

I wasn’t always this way. I was an insecure, shy girl. The idea of straying from the norm frightened me but as I grew older, I started to realize that I didn’t fit in with “normal.” I didn’t want to do what everyone else was doing or wear what everyone else was wearing. Once I realized that, all plans I had for my flat road life were not working out like they were for everyone else. Everyone knows the drill: go to college, get a degree, work a 9 to 5, get married, have kids all by the age of 30 or else you’re done for. That box did not look appealing to me and I definitely did not want to be stuck in it. I had dreams so big, I think that box would explode if I tried to shove them in there. So that’s exactly what I did: I destroyed the box.

That nicely paved yellow-brick road did not satisfy me. I lived for the twists, the turns, the hills and the valleys. I decided to create my own world where I made the rules. As I embarked on my journey, I encountered many people. Some who only sought to bring me down, but many who wanted to lift me up. I drifted away from many friends, but the new ones I found opened my eyes to this new world I had been searching for.

One of the first stops on my journey landed me in New York City: the city of dreams. I took the first job I found, working as a waitress in a restaurant Downtown. It’s not the most glamorous of jobs but we all know NYC rent is far from cheap! This job kept a roof over my head and gave me the flexibility to work full-time and pursue my dreams at the same time. I am grateful for it. But, sometimes I have those days where I want to wear a sticker that says, “I’m not just a waitress!” But at the same time, I think, “Who the f*ck cares?”

Those little moments of self-doubt are part of what makes us human. Self-doubt is ingrained in us, but it’s up to us whether we fuel it or not.

Quieting your inner critic is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome. When you’re at work slaving over tables and rude customers, it’s easy to say to yourself, “Maybe they’re right, maybe I’ll never make it.”

Giving power to that voice is the worst thing you can do to your sanity.

The best way to dismiss your inner-critic is to really connect with your purpose. Once you are connected with your purpose, there is no stopping you. Your purpose will act as a magnet for positive energy and you’ll begin to attract other purpose-oriented people.

Creating a tribe of people on the same mission as you is imperative to your success. Believe it or not, I’ve found some of the most driven individuals while working in the service industry. They are the creatives, the artists and the creators. We are all working in this place with the same goal: to one day be doing what we love all day, every day.

Disclaimer: Don’t tell my boss.

During our down time at work, we bounce ideas off of each other, talk about what we want to accomplish each week, month and year. We created a network of creators. I have blog posts written on rolls of receipt paper, endless notes filled with books to read, talks to listen to and new ideas to embrace.

Who would’ve thought?

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